“Slow Medicine Movement” (notes from keynote)

At the late October 2016 Avenidas Caregiver Conference, the keynote speaker was Lisa Krieger, reporter with the San Jose Mercury News.  Her topic was the “Slow Medicine Movement.”  The description was:  “legislative and policy efforts to improve caregiving, palliative medicine, and our final years.”

Ms. Krieger authored a thought-provoking series in late 2012 on the “cost of dying” at the end of life in the SJMN.  You can find a link to a BSN blog post about the series and Ms. Krieger’s eight “cures” to reduce suffering and the cost of dying here:

www.brainsupportnetwork.org/eight-cures-to-reduce-suffering-and-cost-of-dying-sjmn-12-29-12/

Brain Support Network volunteer Denise Dagan attended the Avenidas Caregiver Conference in late October 2016.  Denise shared these notes from Ms. Krieger’s keynote address.

Robin

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Notes from Denise:

Sadly, Ms. Krieger went through the care of her father without the information and assistance available at the kind of conference at which she was speaking.  She recounted how she had no awareness of palliative or hospice care, advance directives or POLST forms.  Nor did she realize the exorbitant cost of the treatment options the hospital was offering her dad.  Treatments she knew were not the right choice for a man with dementia, but which doctors looked disappointed with her for rejecting.  Only after she had sent them all away did someone suggest hospice, in the last few days of his life.  But, it was the $323,000 bill for a 10-day hospital stay that really sent her over the edge.  As a journalist, she felt she had to write about it.

In her initial research she was impressed with Dennis McCullough’s concept of slow medicine in his book, “My Mother, Your Mother: Embracing ‘Slow Medicine,’ the Compassionate Approach to Caring for Your Aging Loved Ones.”  He found that seniors with access to intense medical intervention did no better than those without such resources because medical technology has, “blurred the line between saving a life and prolonging a death.”

“Slow Medicine,” he says, “is shaped by common sense and kindness, it advocates for careful anticipatory “attending” to an elder’s changing needs rather than waiting for crises that force acute medical interventions—thereby improving the quality of elders’ extended late lives without bankrupting their families financially or emotionally.”  Essentially, he’s talking about palliative care and hospice services, advance directives and POLST forms — the very things Ms. Krieger didn’t know about during her caregiving journey.  But, she’s telling us about them, now.

The second half of Ms. Krieger’s talk was about recent updates and expansions to family caregiving support both in California and nationally.  Although she did not specify, she mentioned seeing recommendations to Congress from the National Academy of Sciences on the subject.  Here are a few things she did specify.

Medicare finally reimburses doctors for a single care planning meeting with seriously ill patients and their families so doctors don’t lose out financially for taking the time to provide information about treatment options, possible outcomes, and answer questions.  If there’s one thing Ms. Krieger wished she’d had, it was medical data on outcomes of the treatment options being offered her father.  Today, that data is available but, excepting for this one billing-approved meeting, doctors are paid for each procedure or test, not talk or explanations.  There is a bill being debated in congress to further expand Medicare’s coverage of the care planning process, but it needs support to get passed.

Recent changes to the California Care Act include provisions that require hospitals to identify a caregiver upon admission to whom the hospital may disclose medical information about the patient, and train in post-hospital care during the discharge process.

California recently increased its paid leave to 60% percent of a person’s salary (capped at $1,100 per week) starting in 2018, and created a new classification for low-income workers, who make about $20,000 or less, to receive 70% of their regular pay, so more people could afford take advantage of the benefit.

The California Task Force on Family Caregiving was recently established “to examine issues relative to the challenges faced by family caregivers and opportunities to improve caregiver support, review the current network and the services and supports available to caregivers, and make policy recommendations to the Legislature.”

The Recognize, Assist, Include, Support, and Engage (RAISE) Family Caregivers Act (S. 1719/H.R. 3099) would require the Secretary of Health and Human Services to develop, maintain and update an integrated national strategy to recognize and support family caregivers.  This also needs support to get passed.

There is a movement afoot that started in 1994 proposing to change Social Security benefits to reflect child-care years out of the paid work force, that is now being expanded to include Social Security quarters credit for those who leave work to care for a family member in the case of long term illness.  Unfortunately, this is still in conceptual stages.

Finally, there is a push to educate young people about the need for compassionate caregiving and to elevate the status and pay for caregivers so that young people are more likely to consider it as a career path.  After all, the young people today will be our caregivers tomorrow.

– Denise

 

Key questions to ask or key info to share about future care (caring.com article)

This post may be of interest to those who haven’t yet talked with their family members about end-of-life care.

Dayna Steele, who writes on caring.com, has a list of five things to do after a neurological diagnosis.  One item on her list is:  talk with your loved one about his or her future care preferences.

In fact, as Ms. Steele points out, we should all write down our future care preferences, whether we have a neurological diagnosis or not.  She suggests wrapping up the answers to give as a holiday gift to our family and close friends.  Among the list of future care questions are these that I don’t see very often in such lists:

* How should we approach taking your driving privileges away and making other transportation arrangements when we know it’s time?

* If your home needs to be sold, do you have any specific instructions?

* If you can no longer take care of your pet(s), what is the vet contact information and where would you like your pet(s) to go?

Here’s a link to Ms. Steele’s list of future care questions:

www.caring.com/articles/questions-end-of-life-care

Having “The Talk”: Key Questions About End-of-Life Care
By Dayna Steele, Chief Caring Expert
Caring.com
Last updated: Nov 09, 2016

And here’s a link to Ms. Steele’s list of five things to do after a neurological diagnosis:

www.huffingtonpost.com/dayna-steele/things-to-do-after-alzheimers-diagnosis_b_12685680.html?

The First 5 Things To Do After An Alzheimer’s Diagnosis
The Huffington Post
By Dayna Steele
November 5, 2016

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Big changes needed so we can spend our final months at home

Though this article is focused on big changes that are needed to “make care at home possible during the last six months of life,” I thought it offered some good questions to consider, such as the tradeoffs between safety and independence.

According to this Kaiser Health News (khn.org) article, experts say these big changes are needed:

1- Reallocating resources to the home setting such as with house-call programs.

2- Clarifying priorities and discussing tradeoffs such as safety vs. independence.  “If staying at home at the end of life is a priority, this has to be communicated – clearly and frequently — to your family, caregivers, and physicians, said Dr. Thomas Lee, co-author of the New England Journal of Medicine study and chief medical officer at Press Ganey, a firm that tracks patients’ experiences with care.”

3- Taking advantage of services designed for people who need help at home, such as palliative care.  Check out the website getpalliativecare.org to find programs in your area.

4- Getting needed help.

5- Building community.  Consider enrolling in a “village” program.

Here’s a link to the full article:

khn.org/news/how-to-spend-your-final-months-at-home-sweet-home/

How To Spend Your Final Months At Home, Sweet Home
By Judith Graham
Kaiser Health News
November 10, 2016   

Robin

“Words Matter: Speaking Your Mind” (notes from caregiver conference talk)

This post is about effective communication within the care team may be of interest to caregivers and care recipients.

Brain Support Network volunteer Denise Dagan attended the Avenidas (avenidas.org) Caregiver Conference in late October 2016.  She took some notes from the various talks.  Here are Denise’s notes from the break-out session talk by author Ruth Nemzoff on “Words Matter: Speaking Your Mind.”

Among other suggestions, Ms. Nemzoff recommends hiring a geriatric care manager.  The professional organization of geriatric care managers now prefers this specialty be called “aging life care professional.”  You can find the organization online at aginglifecare.org.

The Alzheimer’s Association has information about the usefulness of geriatric care managers, including questions to ask when hiring one.  See:
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From Denise:
Ruth Nemzoff, author and speaker on family communications, is an expert at helping caregiver teams cultivate effective communication skills, cut through conflict, and eliminate drama.  We weren’t going to master all that in just an hour.  Instead, she shared with us some thoughts about how to treat someone who suddenly needs care, and building a team of various friends and family members.

Recently, Ms. Nemzoff had the eye-opening experience of being on the receiving end of care after a hip replacement.  She reframed her situation so as not to be overcome by depression, or boredom, and to find a distraction from the pain of recovery.  She focused, instead, on teaching her grandchildren  compassion.  The youngest was afraid of the changes in grandma, until she asked him to hand her things.  Then, he felt powerful, needed, and less afraid.  The older kids were creative in engaging with her, teaching her about electronic entertainment and useful apps, like Uber, until she could drive, again.  By actively enlisting the help of her family as their teacher, she was better able to accept their help.

Ms. Nemzoff has seen her share of family discord over caregiving issues, especially among siblings.  Strong feelings and resentments from past events do influence communication and decisions, especially during a crisis.  I had never heard the expression she shared, “Each child mothers their mother differently.”

Family members should agree; whomever is on site with the person needing care, and bearing the burden of decisions, has final word in any issue, even after discussion and/or disagreement – taking into consideration the opinion of the person needing care (or ‘caree’).  Caregivers should ask the caree what they want, in some detail, whenever possible.

Siblings should discuss how to share the burden of caregiving.  Each person possesses different skills and availability to help in some way.  Even someone out of state can do administrative tasks online (pay bills, file taxes, etc.).  Roles various caregivers play may change over time, so revisit this conversation periodically.

Communication improves with appreciation.  If you ask someone to take responsibility for a task, they are more likely to do it well, and offer more help, if you check in to see how it’s going and tell them you appreciate their efforts.

It is sensible to agree to spend the caree’s savings before dipping into the savings of family members.

If you have a family member who does’t ‘get’ the challenges of looking after your caree, ask them to stay with the caree for a few hours, as a favor.  They will see exactly what you deal with and, hopefully, be more understanding afterward.

Consider hiring a geriatric care manager.  They help plan and coordinate care of the elderly.  Ask at your doctor’s office or contact the professional organization of geriatric care managers at: www.aginglifecare.org/.

The Alzheimer’s Association has information about the usefulness of geriatric care managers, including questions to ask when hiring one here: www.alz.org/stl/documents/GCM_Tips.pdf.

It is not possible to avoid every crisis, even with a geriatric care manager on your team, but don’t despair.  Personal growth, deeper relationships, and good, can come out of crisis.

Ms. Nemzoff had a few suggestions for dealing with difficult issues between carer and caree, as well.

People will always do something for you that they would not do for themselves.  My Mom never liked going to the doctor, but when I said, “Mom, if my siblings find I am letting you skip appointments I will hear no end of it!  Please lets keep this one so I don’t have to listen to them gripe at me.”  She was more likely to get in the car when she saw it as making my life easier.

When trying to get someone talking who is reluctant to discuss a difficult topic, Ms. Nemzoff recommends generalizing other people’s experiences.  It provides an opening to talk about one’s own situation..  For example, “You know, Mom, I read that people with mild cognitive impairment can slow its progression by enrolling in activities for seniors.  The activity social interaction, and exercise is all good for the brain.  I bet we can find a senior program you would enjoy.”  Hopefully, ‘Mom’ will reply that is something she’s willing to do.

If your caree is reluctant to discuss medical options by dismissing them out of hand during an appointment, Ms. Nemzoff suggests making excuses (stopping at the bathroom or for some administrative task) on the way out, and snagging the doctor to get the information.  Share the options with your caree in a non-medical environment when he or she may be more receptive.

Ms. Nemzoff told a sweet story about a man with dementia who went to the bank every day asking for $100.  The teller knew him and always said, “Let’s have a look in your wallet and see how you’re doing for cash before withdrawing more.”  With a cup of coffee and a cookie, he would comply, have a nice chat and be on his way.  Ms. Nemzoff suggests we visit places where our carees want to do business independently, and inform customer service and/or sales people about our caree’s challenges.  Create a small, caring, neighborly community within the typically impersonal business environment.

If you are new to a circle of care, Ms. Nemzoff recommends asking the person needing care how you can be helpful; at least until you figure out what your role will be to him or her.  It’s a kind, generous, thing to do.

Finally, she recommends we start now discussing our own caregiving expectations with our loved ones, and revisit the subject often as circumstances change.  Talking about it now, will help communication and decision making go more smoothly later.

“Elder orphans” band together for support and advice (USA Today)

Having no children myself, I think a lot about who will manage my care when I’m older.  Or, more precisely, will my healthcare power-of-attorney know how to hire and manage the geriatric care manager who is managing my care?

This recent USA Today article addresses the topic of “childless seniors.  The author Kim Painter notes:

* About 20 percent of U.S. women now reach their 50s without having children, up from 10 percent in the 1970s.

* One third of middle-age adults are heading toward retirement years as singles, after never marrying, divorce or widowhood.

* Women are likely to be single or become single as they age, with more than 80 percent unmarried after age 85.

The article shares some ideas for possible living arrangements. Here’s a link to the article:

www.usatoday.com/story/life/2016/10/16/elder-orphans-aging-support-advice/91847270/

“Elder orphans” band together for support and advice
Kim Painter, Special for USA TODAY
6:06 a.m. EDT October 16, 2016

Robin