“The Year of Conquering Negative Thinking”

Of course we caregivers tend to worry about all the bad things that “might” happen.  Perhaps those with a neurological diagnosis do this too.

This recent New York Times article offers a challenge to us all:  “Make this the year that you quiet all those negative thoughts swirling around your brain.”

This approach is suggested:

* “The first step to stopping negative thoughts is a surprising one. Don’t try to stop them. … Instead, notice that you are in a negative cycle and own it.”

* “After you’ve accepted a negative thought, force yourself to challenge it. … If you’re having trouble challenging your negative thoughts, try this approach. Imagine that your friend is the one who received the bad news. What advice would you give him or her? Now think of how that advice might apply to you.”

* “Now move from a place of inaction to action to counteract the negative thought. … [It]may be helpful to ask yourself if you are accomplishing anything by dwelling on your negative thoughts.”

* “When your negative thoughts are making you feel agitated and overwhelmed, take a deep breath, and then another.”

* “Finally, if your thoughts are making you feel seriously distressed and interfering with your ability to work and relax, consider seeing a mental health professional.”

Here’s a link to the full article:

www.nytimes.com/2017/01/03/well/mind/the-year-of-conquering-negative-thinking.html

Well | Mind
The Year of Conquering Negative Thinking
New York Times
By Lesley Alderman
Jan. 3, 2017

Happy reading,
Robin

“My sister made her end-of-life wishes clear. Then dementia took hold”

This is a beautiful article by Judith Graham whose sister’s wishes were to have no feeding tube or breathing machine if she became incapacitated. And Then the sister was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia (FTD).  The sister wanted to stay in her home throughout the illness, as many of us do.

The article has a lot to do with frontotemporal dementia symptoms.  It also addresses the struggles within families to honor their loved one’s wishes. While Judith’s sister never got a feeding tube, she was moved to a memory care facility at some point. The sister thrived in the facility.

Judith Graham addresses the idea that disability means that life isn’t worth living.  She says:

That idea that value is erased by disability — that was clearly wrong.

Here’s a link to the full article:

www.statnews.com/2016/09/16/dementia-last-wishes/

STAT
First Opinion
My sister made her end-of-life wishes clear. Then dementia took hold
By Judith Graham
September 16, 2016

Robin

Problems families dealing with dementia may face

I recently stumbled across the website, patient.info, which is a resource for UK physicians about various disorders.  The website contains a helpful page about caregiving for someone with dementia.  Though it is written with physicians in mind (ie, how physicians can be supportive of families), I think the page provides a good summary for laypeople as well.

In addition, I think much of this article applies to caregivers who are NOT dealing with dementia.  Much of the information and advice is generic.

Here’s a link to the full article:

patient.info/doctor/supporting-the-family-of-people-with-dementia

Supporting the Family of People with Dementia
Patient, a UK organization
Last reviewed May 2014

Note that in the UK “caregivers” are referred to as “carers.”  (It’s a superior term in my mind.)

Robin

“Caring For A Loved One At Home Can Have A Steep Learning Curve”

This is a good article from Kaiser Health News (khn.org) this Monday.  The story is part of a partnership that includes WHYY (a public station in Philadelphia), NPR and Kaiser Health News.  You can also listen to the 4.5-minute radio story on the KHN website.

The focus is on family caregivers who don’t have training in nursing skills and home care skills.  Examples include caring for a bed sore, changing sheets while the family member is still in the bed, taking blood pressure, monitoring breathing, and providing a bed bath.

The transition from hospital to home (or rehab center to home) is especially a problem.  Solutions to this challenge discussed in the story include in-hospital or in-rehab center training for family caregivers and bringing home health assistance into the home.

According to the article:  “Thirty-three states have adopted legislation requiring medical centers to give caregivers basic training or instructions when a patient heads home from the hospital, though how this is carried out is largely up to the hospital.”

Though California is one of those 33 states, I’ve never heard of any of our group members receiving training at a hospital or rehab facility.

Here’s a link to the article:

khn.org/news/caring-for-a-loved-one-at-home-can-have-a-steep-learning-curve/

Caring For A Loved One At Home Can Have A Steep Learning Curve
By Taunya English, WHYY
Kaiser Health News
December 12, 2016

The full article is copied below.

Robin


Caring For A Loved One At Home Can Have A Steep Learning Curve
By Taunya English, WHYY
Kaiser Health News
December 12, 2016

Dementia has been slowly stealing Ruth Perez’s memory and thinking ability for 20 years. Her daughter, Angela Bobo, recalled when it was clear that her mother was never going to be the same.

“She would put food together that didn’t belong together — hamburger and fish in a pot. Mom never cooked like that,” she said.

The mother and daughter live together in Yeadon, Pa., just outside of Philadelphia.

Perez is literally in the center of the family. She spends much of her day tucked under a fleece blanket on a recliner in the middle of the living room. The 87-year-old doesn’t seem to notice as her daughter and grown grandchildren come and go, but they keep up a steady one-sided conversation with her anyway.

“If I kiss her, she might lean towards me, and sometimes she’ll nod,” said Bobo. “What she can do, at times, is smile at you and say a word like, ‘uh huh.’”

Perez can’t lift her arms or move her legs.

A rotating crew of family members takes turns caring for her. They are experienced and they have routines and schedules, but a few months ago, the pressure of lying in one place created a small blister on Perez’s hip. The blister burst and that became a bedsore and wouldn’t heal.

“I couldn’t get it to go away,” Bobo said. “When I say we were at our wits’ end to fix this, we were beyond there.”

About 44 million Americans are unpaid family caregivers like Bobo — sometimes for a child with special needs, more often for a frail older adult, according to a 2015 estimate from the National Alliance for Caregiving. They are often women with a full-time job and children, though now 40 percent of caregivers are men, and millennials are becoming more involved in caring for someone at home, says John Schall, CEO of the Caregiver Action Network.

“In too many cases, people just learn this stuff by themselves and that’s really kind of dangerous,” Schall said.

That’s because many people don’t have the necessary skills. Thirty-three states have adopted legislation requiring medical centers to give caregivers basic training or instructions when a patient heads home from the hospital, though how this is carried out is largely up to the hospital.

Ken Everhart, a retired tech guy from North Carolina, became a caregiver for his wife, Genie, for just a few months 10 years ago, when the two were in their mid-50s.

“What we needed was for someone to sit me down in a class and say, ‘Here’s how you change the sheets while she’s still in the bed. Here’s how you take her blood pressure. Here’s how you monitor her breathing,’” Everhart said.

He worried he’d drop her as they struggled to get to the bathroom. He wasn’t sure when to call 911. That uncertainty weighed on Ken — especially when Genie was rushed back to the hospital three times.

“I had given her a straw to drink out of, and a sippy cup, and I went to make a phone call. I wasn’t gone five minutes and I came back in and she was choking,” he said. “I should have sat her up, and I should not have allowed her to have anything to drink while I wasn’t in there to watch. But I didn’t know that.”

Many families can’t afford to use trained caregivers. Hiring help at home for just a few hours a week can cost $10,000 to $15,000 a year.

“When patients leave the hospital, they generally leave quick and sick,” said Susan McAllister, medical director of quality in the Division of Hospital Medicine at Cooper University Health Care in Camden, N.J. Her team includes the social workers, home health nurses and others who help plan a patient’s discharge from the hospital.

McAllister said these days it’s common to come in with a heart attack, get medicine to open a blocked artery, and leave just 48 hours later. The short hospital stay isn’t a problem, she said, but the transition home has to be done right.

In October, Minnesota became the latest state to pass laws to prepare potential caregivers to know what the sick person may need. California, New Jersey, Oklahoma and New York also have versions of a Caregiver Advise, Record, Enable (CARE) Act. Across the country, AARP has lobbied strongly for the proposals.

These laws generally require hospitals and rehabilitation facilities to record the name of the caregiver in the patient’s medical chart. Medical centers and rehab centers must offer caregivers basic training or instructions, and the caregiver is supposed to be notified if a patient is discharged to another family member or back home.

McAllister said years ago, Cooper realized it needed to do a lot more to make sure people were healing safely at home. From day one, caregivers are part of discharge planning, she said. On day two, a social worker might help the family shop for help at home.

“On day three, we may start teaching inside the hospital,” McAllister said.

Hospitals don’t get paid more for those extra steps. But now Medicare hits medical centers with a financial penalty if too many patients bounce back to the hospital and have to be readmitted. The federal government’s Hospital Readmissions Reduction Program was created under the Affordable Care Act.

Many at-home caregivers say the responsibility weighs heavily.

“It scares you,” said Angela Bobo. “When I’m in pain, I can tell you. She can’t tell me that’s she’s in pain.” So when her mother’s bedsore wouldn’t heal after so many days, Bobo said, “That’s when I said: ‘I’m going to take her to the doctor’s, because I don’t know what’s going on with this.’ ”

Bobo took her mother to the doctor, and he basically wrote a prescription saying her mom needed more help. That way, Medicare paid for skilled nursing care at home, and Angela Bobo got lessons in cleaning and dressing her mother’s wound. Now she knows what to expect.

“I told her it’s going to get worse before it gets better,” said David Wilson, a registered nurse from Crozer-Keystone Home Health Services who went to Bobo’s house. He’s a wound-care specialist whose job is house calls.

“To get a wound better, you have to remove the dead tissue and start from the ground up,” Wilson said.

Some nurses come to the house, do their job and leave, but Wilson said teaching is part of his work. Lots of times he’s the one nudging reluctant family caregivers who worry they’re going to do the wrong thing.

“I will tell you in home care, the biggest thing is fear,” Wilson said.

Wilson made several visits. He recommended a new wound-care regimen for Ruth Perez’ bedsore, and Perez got an airflow mattress that relieved the pressure on her skin. Medicare paid for that, too. The nurse returned several times to check on the family, and Bobo said that gave her more confidence that she was doing the right things to care for her mother.

This story is part of a partnership that includes WHYY’s health show The Pulse, NPR and Kaiser Health News.

“Communicating and Advocating with Medical Professionals” (workshop notes)

Brain Support Network super-volunteer Denise Dagan recently attended a Family Caregiver Alliance workshop on “Communicating and Advocating with Medical Professionals.”  The workshop leader, Christina Irving, LCSW, is a longtime friend of BSN, having spoken at our symposia and attended our local support group meetings.

I encourage the caregivers in our network to know about Family Caregiver Alliance (caregiver.org), which supports caregivers in six Bay Area counties, or the affiliated California Caregiver Resource Centers.  You can find a list of them here:
www.caregiver.org/californias-caregiver-resource-centers

Here are Denise’s notes from the workshop.

Robin

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Recently, I attended a workshop hosted by the Family Caregiver Alliance on “Communicating and Advocating with Medical Professionals.”

Christina Irving, LCSW, directed us to a 44-page online booklet that discusses this topic in depth.  Talking With Your Doctor, A Guide for Older People is available to read or print at:

Talking With Your Doctor: A Guide for Older People
www.nia.nih.gov/health/publication/talking-your-doctor/opening-thoughts-why-does-it-matter

There are a number of challenges to effective communication with medical professionals.  Hopefully, having some idea of your rights, and knowing you’re not asking for more than you deserve, will put you in a position of confidence.

Here are some things we discussed in the workshop.

You can communicate with your doctor better by taking an active role in your health care. In the past, the doctor typically took the lead and the patient followed.

Christina made sure we were aware of a fairly recent change in Medicare.  “In January of 2014, Medicare officials updated the agency’s policy manual — the rule book for everything Medicare does — to erase any notion that improvement is necessary to receive coverage for skilled care. That means Medicare now will pay for physical therapy, nursing care and other services for beneficiaries with chronic diseases like multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s or Alzheimer’s disease in order to maintain their condition and prevent deterioration.”

You may not have heard about this before because Medicare was not required to inform beneficiaries, although Robin got the word out to this list at the time.  See:

Medicare Policy Change – No Improvement Requirement
www.brainsupportnetwork.org/medicare-no-improvement-requirement/

Then, we had a discussion that began with finding a qualified doctor with whom you feel comfortable speaking about everything.  Expect that doctor to work with you as a team, communicate with specialists to ensure you get the right diagnosis and confer with you on treatment options.  Know that you have a right to an interpreter, if you need one.

But, its not just a one-way street.  When you go in for an appointment be prepared.  Keep track of the symptoms you came to discuss: when do they occur? what makes them better or worse?  Make a prioritized list of what you want to discuss.  Share all your symptoms, medications you are taking, your habits, stressors, etc., and ask questions.  Bring someone with you to help report symptoms, take notes, and remember what the doctor says.

Doctors often place responsibility on you to do or acquire something related to your treatment.  For example: they may recommend dietary changes, or medical equipment.  If you find you don’t know exactly how to carry out the instructions, even if you’ve already left the office, call and say, “I don’t know how to implement this.  I need someone to educate me.”  The doctor should write a prescription for physical or occupational therapy consult, nutritionist or dietician consult, or someone in the office should explain exactly what to do.

Before you leave an appointment be sure you understand why tests have been ordered, how to prepare for them, dangers or side effects, how you will find out the results and when, what will you know after the test, and how to proceed.  You should understand the implications of your diagnosis and what you can expect.  And ask about medications, how you are to take them, side effects and alternatives.

Make sure you understand what your treatment involves, what it will or will not do, and if the doctor suggests a treatment that makes you uncomfortable ask if there are alternatives.  Discuss cost, risks and benefits, and consider your values and circumstances with respect to each treatment option.  Specialists can be hyper-focused on their area of expertise and recommend therapies in conflict with the patient’s unrelated diagnoses, especially as we age.  Point out these conflicts and don’t leave the appointment without a treatment plan that works for you.

You have the right to a second opinion and should always ask for one when surgery, radiation, or chemo are recommended.  Second opinion referrals are also reasonable when you want confirmation of a diagnosis or recommended treatment, or when you aren’t comfortable with your current care.  Take advantage of our marvelous local research and teaching hospitals.  If you’re with Kaiser it may mean traveling to a Kaiser location that specializes in not just neurology, but movement disorders, for example.

If you are hospitalized most of this advice applies with the added element of discharge planning.  Under the new CARE Act, hospitals are required to provide each admitted patient the chance to identify a family caregiver, to notify the family caregiver by the time a discharge order is written of possible discharge or transfer, and provide education to the family caregiver in a culturally competent manner and in the caregiver’s language of fluency.

Communicate your needs and limitations to the discharge planner assigned to your case.  Discuss whether it is best to discharge to home or a facility, and what insurance and/or Medicare covers.  If everyone agrees it is best to discharge to a facility the hospital should find an available spot for you.  If it is not up to your standards, you may be able to make them find you another by checking that the first is equipped to perform all discharge orders safely.  If they are and you still don’t like the place, you must do the legwork to find an alternative acceptable bed on your own.  California Advocates for Nursing Home Reform (canhr.org) can help.

Next Step in Care (nextstepincare.org) “provides easy-to-use guides to help family caregivers and health care providers work closely together to plan and implement safe and smooth transitions (hospital discharge, or from home to a care facility) for chronically or seriously ill patients” with checklists and videos in four languages.

If you feel a hospital discharge is not safe, or premature, you can appeal by calling Livanta, the Beneficiary and Family Centered Care Quality Improvement Organization (BFCC-QIO) for Medicare in our area, at 1-866-615-5440.  Information about appealing a Medicare hospital discharge is available at:

Medicare Claims and Appeals
www.medicare.gov/claims-and-appeals/index.html

Usually, just letting the hospital know you are aware of your rights to appeal a discharge, is enough to slow the process until all your concerns are addressed.

If you’re having difficulty communicating with medical professionals or coordinating care in a clinic or hospital, seek out their Social Work Staff, Care Coordinators, or Case Management Team.  These offices are there for just this purpose.  Failing that, consider hiring a Geriatric Care Manager.  They charge by the hour, but their certification trains them to facilitate communication and coordinate care among medical professionals.

– Denise