“Freezing of Gait: why and how?” – Lecture notes

A neurologist spoke on “freezing of gait” (FOG) at the early-April Insight 2020 conference. FOG occurs when an individual finds that his/her feet “stick” to the floor or shuffle forward in short, unbalanced steps, while they are trying to walk forward. FOG can make it difficult to get around and often precipitates falls. The lecture is a rather technical explanation of how FOG occurs. FOG is present in Parkinson’s Disease (PD) and all of the atypical parkinsonism disorders.

Insight 2020 was the largest online conference for people with PD, their caregivers, and those who work with the PD community. Lauren Stroshane from Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach attended the virtual conference and took notes on some of the talks that seemed most interesting. Copied below are her notes from a talk by neurologist Dr. Aasef Shaikh from the Cleveland Medical Center on the topic of FOG.

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Freezing of gait: why and how?
Speaker: Dr. Aasef G. Shaikh, Assistant Professor of Neurology at Cleveland Medical Center
Insight into Parkinson’s Conference, April 2, 2020
Notes by Lauren Stroshane, Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach

Freezing of gait (FOG) occurs when an individual – most often, someone with Parkinson’s Disease (PD) – finds that their feet “stick” to the floor or shuffle forward in short, unbalanced steps, while they are trying to walk forward. Many with PD will experience some degree of FOG over the course of the illness; it can make it very difficult to get around, and often precipitates falls.

FOG is a context-dependent phenomenon: it doesn’t happen in every situation. Scenarios that commonly trigger FOG include:

  • Walking in a narrow hallway
  • Going in and out of a doorway or threshold where the flooring changes
  • Walking in a busy room with many people around, such as a grocery store

What is the common element in all these scenarios that leads to FOG in those with PD? It is not just a motor issue. Gait and balance in PD involve multiple systems. 

Action and perception are closely linked; if you perform a repetitive physical task and you perceive that you did it well, such as taking a step forward, then your brain interprets this as successful and repeats it. There seems to be a mismatch in PD between the perception of walking versus the action of walking. Postural changes and muscle rigidity often alter one’s center of gravity and ability to maintain normal balance; these also play into the likelihood of falls and freezing.

Visual and spatial processing difficulties are also common in PD and contribute to FOG and falls. If your brain is struggling to determine whether a dark shape at the end of the hall is a shadow, a table, or a dog, this can trigger freezing. Changes in depth perception, blurred vision, and double vision can occur in PD as well and are called binocular disparity. Tiny eye movements called saccades are normal for our regular visual processing; in PD, these saccades are often abnormal, making it more difficult for those with PD to scan their visual environment. Interestingly, those with Deep Brain Stimulation (DBS) implants seem to have improved eye movements compared with those who do not have DBS.

Putting all these factors together, as a person with PD is walking forward in their environment, impaired visuospatial processing and visual problems make it difficult to get a correct read on their surroundings, while motor issues and impaired ability to perceive their own movements make it difficult to know where in space their own body is. This mismatch seems to confuse the brain, leading to FOG as the brain struggles to figure out what to do.

“Neuropsychological symptoms of Parkinson’s disease” – lecture notes

A neuropsychologist spoke on neuropsychological symptoms of Parkinson’s Disease (PD) at the early-April Insight 2020 conference. Since these neuropsychological symptoms — cognitive impairment, attention, visuospatial processing, executive functioning, apathy, and disinhibition — have relevance for the atypical parkinsonism community, we are sharing the lecture notes here.

Insight 2020 was the largest online conference for people with PD, their caregivers, and those who work with the PD community. Lauren Stroshane from Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach attended the virtual conference and took notes on some of the talks that seemed most interesting. Copied below are her notes from a talk by Australian neuropsychologist Dr. Luke Smith.

This excerpt is worth highlighting as we see this same issue in the atypical parkinsonism conditions:

People with PD sometimes describe themselves as having a memory problem. Yet, in the speaker’s experience, many of those people who undergo cognitive testing are actually shown to have a learning problem, not a memory problem. Memory has 3 stages: learning (taking in new information), storage (like a computer; keeping the information), and remembering (retrieving the info when you need it).

This is a good excerpt too as lack of insight is very common in the atypical parkinsonism conditions, especially Lewy body dementia and progressive supranuclear palsy:

Executive functioning is best described as the most complicated aspects of our cognitive function: planning, anticipating the outcome of actions, problem-solving, controlling instinctive responses to stimuli, and having insight into one’s own condition. It is another aspect of cognition that can be impacted by PD. Sometimes the loved ones of those with PD may feel that the affected person is in denial of their condition – but it may just be a lack of insight due to the disease.

Robin

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Neuropsychological symptoms of Parkinson’s disease  
Speaker: Dr. Luke Smith, Clinical Neuropsychologist
Insight into Parkinson’s Conference, April 2, 2020
Notes by Lauren Stroshane, Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach

The speaker, Dr. Luke Smith, is a clinical neuropsychologist in Melbourne. He discussed changes in cognition, social cognition, behavior and personality that can occur in those with PD, as well as support options.

Dr. Smith sometimes finds it strange that PD is classified as a movement disorder, since the disease affects far more than just our movement. The basal ganglia, which is the area of the brain most affected by PD, was originally thought to be responsible only for movement. We now know that this part of the brain also greatly impacts how we think, feel, and behave. The frontal lobe and parietal lobes of the brain are also affected in PD; these areas impact “executive” or decision-making function (frontal lobe), and visual processing (parietal lobe).

Minor changes in thinking or memory are called mild cognitive impairment (MCI). This may show up on cognitive testing, but likely is not impacting the individual’s day-to-day life. Those with PD are at higher risk of having MCI.

Parkinson’s disease dementia (PDD) occurs if MCI has progressed into more severe problems in memory or thinking, impacting the person’s ability to perform normal functions like driving a car, managing finances, or cook a meal. Looking at the prevalence of these issues in PD longitudinally, most research suggests that, for those who have lived with PD for ten years or more, about half would probably meet criteria to be diagnosed with PDD.

Changes that can occur in thinking: 

The amount of time it takes for a person with PD to process information often increases. Keeping up with a fast conversation or a rapid-paced movie can become more difficult; it may feel like the world is moving faster around you. Changes in attention and concentration may also occur. Attention span is defined as how much information you can take in at one time; the average amount of information a normal adult can absorb is about 5-7 bits of information at one time without repetition of the information. For those with PD, it may be only 3 bits of information that they can take in at once. Divided attention – often called “multitasking – becomes more difficult for those with PD as well. For some people, working memory – the ability to keep multiple small amounts of new information in your mind at once – is affected as well, manifesting sometimes as difficulty with mental arithmetic.

Visuospatial processing tends to be affected in those with PD. This means the ability to understand visual stimuli. Those who have a dog know that their dominant sense is that of smell; dogs are highly driven by their noses. Similarly, most humans’ dominant sense is our sight. Our eyes take in the raw data and our brain makes sense of that data. For those with PD, the way they interpret that data is no longer working normally. This can manifest, for instance, in difficulty putting together IKEA furniture, or problems for those who make their living as architects, contractors, artists, designers, or others in highly visual fields.

People with PD sometimes describe themselves as having a memory problem. Yet, in the speaker’s experience, many of those people who undergo cognitive testing are actually shown to have a learning problem, not a memory problem.

Memory has 3 stages:

  1. Learning – taking in new information 
  2. Storage – like a computer, keeping the information
  3. Remembering – being able to retrieve that information when you need it

For those in early to moderate PD, often, their memory is fine. It may be that they aren’t taking in as much information to be encoded in their memory storage. When someone has a true memory problem, it is step 3 – remembering the information off the top of your head – that is the issue. For people with PD, receiving a prompt or hint can help recognize the memory, allowing them to retrieve it. This is called recognition memory, and is usually still quite strong in those with PD.

By contrast, Alzheimer’s disease (AD) is another common neurodegenerative disease that affects memory quite differently than PD. Those with AD suffer from deterioration of their long-term memory: who they are, where they live, who their family is. For those with PD, memory often becomes less efficient, but long-term memory remains intact.

Executive functioning is best described as the most complicated aspects of our cognitive function: planning, anticipating the outcome of actions, problem-solving, controlling instinctive responses to stimuli, and having insight into one’s own condition. It is another aspect of cognition that can be impacted by PD. Sometimes the loved ones of those with PD may feel that the affected person is in denial of their condition – but it may just be a lack of insight due to the disease.

Some of those with PD may have trouble recognizing certain facial expressions in others, particularly unhappy or angry expressions. This ability to recognize social cues is called social cognition. Figuring out an idea of why another person may be feeling a certain way is called theory of mind.

Additionally, those with PD may experience something called pseudobulbar affect – the tendency to show excessive emotion in response to outside stimuli, regardless of how they actually feel inside. An example may be crying for no reason, or laughing uncontrollably at inappropriate times.

Changes in behavior and personality can also occur in PD, since these aspects of oneself are controlled in the frontal lobes. Apathy is the most common change that happens in those with PD, and can be quite frustrating for caregivers or family who are trying to motivate the individual to do things they formerly enjoyed. Impulsivity, also called disinhibition, may start to do things without considering the consequences. An example may be rudely commenting on someone’s appearance, when in the past, they would never have done so. 

If you or a loved one are noticing some of these issues, the first thing to do is seek help with a medical professional.

What to do if you notice cognitive changes?

Neuropsychologists, like the speaker himself, are good at working with families to assess cognitive abilities and make recommendations and can administer a standard battery of tests, typically over 3-4 hours. But a primary care doctor or neurologist can also be a good place to start, likely with a cognitive screening test that might take only 20 minutes or so. Among the various cognitive tests out there, the Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA) does a better job of screening for executive dysfunction and other issues specifically seen in PD than some of the other screening tests that may be available, such as the Mini-Mental State Exam (MMSE), which the speaker does not recommend in PD. Occupational therapists, speech therapists, and nurses can be helpful resources as well, for evaluating cognitive changes.

It’s important to consider where you are getting your information; internet searches will turn up lots of different websites that may or may not have accurate information. Instead, contact your local PD association, which will have up-to-date information and resources for these issues. 

There is some good news: In the last 5 years, we now have evidence that cognitive rehabilitation strategies can help when someone experiences memory or thinking issues. Cognitive rehabilitation involves learning and using new memory and thinking techniques and strategies. They do not necessarily improve cognition per se, but they do improve coping abilities and improve a person’s ability to function day-to-day.

In-home Activities While Sheltering in Place – UCSF Caregiving Webinar Notes

In response to the covid-19 outbreak and shelter-in-place orders, the UCSF Memory and Aging Center (MAC) hosted a weekly caregiving webinar series in April 2020.  These webinars are focused on providing information and resources to caregivers spending more time at home with their loved one and less caregiving support than usual.

The second webinar presented on April 8th was on the topic of “In-Home Activities While Sheltering in Place.”  A terrific RN at the MAC was the main speaker — Sarah Dulaney, RN, CNS. She spoke for the first 24 minutes. There was also a family caregiver speaker. As we didn’t find the family caregiver’s remarks so interesting for the atypical parkinsonism audience, they aren’t included in this blog post.

Ms. Dulaney’s main advice is to: Choose activities that can help reduce stress in your home because stress is contagious from caregiver to care receiver. In this webinar, she offers lists of activities that might be rewarding, relaxing, distracting, refreshing, or providing a social connection.

If you are home with your family member with no respite, pace yourself! Ms. Dulaney offers some advice in this situation:

  • Apathy, decreased attention, irritability, and daytime sleepiness are common barriers to engagement
  • Try shorter, more frequent episodes of activity (5-15 mins)
  • Find ways to connect through activities of daily living (i.e., laughing, singing, conversation, touch)

Here are Ms. Dulaney’s resources related to activities:

Here’s a link to recording of the April 8th webinar:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1nQVYQdsVg&feature=youtu.be

At this link, you’ll find the recordings of all five caregiving webinars along with PDFs of the slides presented:

memory.ucsf.edu/covid#caregiver-webinar

Thanks to Brain Support Network staff member Denise Dagan for attending the webinar, and sharing her notes.  See Denise’s notes below.

Robin

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In-Home Activities While Sheltering in Place
Webinar hosted by UCSF Memory and Aging Center
April 8, 2020
Presenters:  Sarah Dulaney, RN, CNS and Pam Roberts, caregiver
Notes by Denise Dagan

What to do when stuck at home ALL DAY EVERY DAY?

Choose activities that can help reduce stress in your home because stress is contagious from caregiver to care receiver.  Stress can make caregiving more difficult as it will manifest in difficult and uncooperative behaviors, especially in those who suffer from dementia.  To reduce stress in your home:

  • Stick to a routine
  • Take one day at a time
  • Do your best
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Prioritize connecting with others

How do activities affect your mood and energy level? Do things that regulate the neurotransmitters in your brain, or activities that are:

  • Rewarding
  • Relaxing
  • Distracting from negative thoughts and stress
  • Refreshing to your energy level
  • Connecting with others, socially

Rewarding activities reinforce a sense of purpose and accomplishment. Try to get the person you care for to help with these activities:

  • Work
  • Helping others
    • Caring for others can feel rewarding
    • Find tasks to make a care recipient feel they are helping
      • Help around the house
      • Give caregiver a back rub
  • Cleaning and household chores
    • sweep, rake, dishes, laundry
    • care recipients may need cuing or assistance.  They may not do tasks perfectly, but it makes them feel helpful/useful.
  • Home improvement projects
    • cleaning out closets
    • sorting clothes, photos, books, magazines
  • Cooking or baking
    • peeling, chopping, stirring, set the table, take things to the table
  • Gardening
    • even houseplants
  • Caring for a pet, or fostering animals
  • Creative arts or craft project
    • taking photos, baking together, arranging flowers, coloring mandalas
    • use found objects or recycled items (twigs, rocks, toilet paper rolls) if you have few or no craft supplies
    • take a photo of your project and share with friends and family
  • Puzzles and games
    • Springbuck brand 36 piece jigsaw puzzles with adult images
  • Learning a new skill
    • new language, song, exercise or hobby – doesn’t have to be ambitious to be rewarding

Relaxing activities ease tension and emotional arousal in the mind and body:

  • Mindful awareness or deep breathing
  • Meditation, mantra or prayer
    • Metta Meditation:  “May I be happy, may I be well, may I be safe, may I be at peace, may I be at ease.”
    • Repeat mantra wishing others the same
  • Nature walk, scenic drive, window watching or nature videos (TV, youtube)
  • Drink tea or other beverage in a mindful way (notice flavor, how it warms you, etc.)
  • Imagine a different reality
    • somewhere more pleasant, like a place where you vacationed.  Get out photos.
    • somewhere more distressing and be grateful that we are in a place that is relatively safe.
  • Warm shower or bath
  • Massage, hugs, holding hands, or cuddling with a pet
  • Wrapping up in a blanket, stuffed animal or soft stretchy or weighted blanked
  • Listening to music
    • choose a genre from the care recipient’s past
  • Eating chocolate

Distracting activities redirect our attention to something entertaining or amusing and away from the stress of news, worries and fears:

  • Manicure, hairstyling and dress-up with hats or jewelry
    • Take pictures or do a video call to share the experience
  • Magazines, books (read to them), coloring books, trivia, telling jokes, sharing memes
  • Video call with family or friends
  • Singing karaoke
  • Playing simple games like Jenga, blackjack, dominos or bingo
  • Digital games like solitaire, sudoku, crossword or Microsoft Flight Simulator
  • Classic movies or sitcoms, sports, cooking or home improvement shows, animal cameras, nature videos
  • Virtual museum tours, live-stream (opera, symphony, zoo, safari, Winchester Mystery House) online classes or lectures

Refreshing activities renew our strength and energy:

  • Exercise
    • Online videos
      • Silver Sneakers
      • NIH Go4Life Workout Videos
    • Put on music and dance
    • Walking
    • Chair sits, wall push-ups, etc.
  • Creative projects
  • Spiritual practices or rituals (walk in nature, honor religious traditions)
  • Reflect on and reaffirm your goals & values

Connecting activities build and deepen relationships

  • Reminisce, listen and tell stories
  • Find meaning in the mundane
    • Family recipes or food preferences
    • Quirky sayings of habits of friends and/or family members
  • Record meaningful moments on video
    • It will be nice to have these when the person you care for passes
  • Apologize
  • Forgive or let things go – over the phone, by video, write letters or email, journal to forgive those who have died
  • Use “love language”
    • Encouraging words (like compliments or appreciation), gifts, acts of service, physical touch
    • Find ways to be kind to each other and spend quality time together

(Resources for the above list: Gary Chapman, “The Five Love Languages,” 2015 and Ira Byock, “The Four Things that Matter Most,” 2014.)

Connect remotely:

  • Phone calls and texts
  • Covia’s Well Connected (senior center without walls, armchair travel, etc.)
  • Virtual/Zoom support group (through Alzheimer’s Association)
  • Letters or postcards
  • Social media (Facebook, Instagram, NextDoor, WhatsApp)
  • Video call technology (FaceTime, Skype, Zoom Google Duo, Amazon Alexa Show)
    • Consider how to get the most out of the connection.  
    • If the person you contact is unable to speak, share music with them or keep it short and tell them you love them
    • For those more cognitively aware be creative, get grandchildren involved (put on a play, read to each other, etc.)

Pace yourself if you are home with your care recipient without respite:

  • Apathy, decreased attention, irritability, and daytime sleepiness are common barriers to engagement
  • Try shorter, more frequent episodes of activity (5-15 mins)
  • Find ways to connect through activities of daily living (i.e., laughing, singing, conversation, touch)

Share your own tips and ideas!

  • Electronic Wonder Bible or audiobook bible
  • Animated/robot ‘stuffed’ animals (Joy For All Dog)
  • Jigsaw puzzles (high contrast color makes puzzle pieces easier to see)
  • Video calls with family/friends

Let’s Review

  • Do your best, and be gentle with yourself
  • Consider activities that might be rewarding, relaxing, distracting, refreshing and connecting
  • Observe, adapt and simplify
  • Explore behavior as communication

Resources

Questions-and-Answers

Q. Person with FTD who used to be outdoors-y and now can’t go to gym.

A. Try a recumbent bike or virtual personal training with home gym equipment.  Of course, you can still take them outside with supervision.  Social distancing is more likely to happen on bicycles. Go see if trails he enjoyed are still open and how crowded.  Try to find one you can still take him to.  Even just walking around the block twice a day would be helpful.

Comment: Make face masks with the person you care for.

Q. Is there such a thing as too much TV?

A. Yes, limit how much the person you care for watches the news.  Perhaps you can listen to the news through head phones to limit how much news they hear.  There is too much TV if if results in too much sitting.  You can get very involved conversationally by watching something like live streaming zoo animals or programs you both enjoy and talk about.  Especially older programming like Murder She Wrote, M*A*S*H, etc. that is familiar to you.  Religious services can be very meaningful for some people.  Be sure to take time to get up and move around.

Q. Barriers to engaging in activities, like apathy.  How to motivate?

A. This is a very common challenge.  Adjust your expectations.  Maybe it is a success to get the person you care for to get off the couch and come to the dining room or patio for a meal.  Try asking them to do something gentle at first, like sit on the porch, go for a drive, etc.  Sometimes, if you ask them if they want to do something you will get an automatic NO without them even thinking about what you said.  Try asking them to help you (take out the trash) or join you (for a walk).  Once you get them in the car their interest may be heightened.  Using rewards can get someone moving.  Show them a treat to get them moving.  Move the treat forward to keep them moving.  Promise a treat when a task is completed.

Q. How to remind someone of social distancing rules, proper hand washing, etc.

A. Wash your hands with them.  Provide verbal cues to remind them what you want them to do.   Example: someone with dementia approaching animals or children while out.  Solution: hold their hand to remind them.  Intervene and suggest taking a photo of the animal or child, rather than touching, may be a satisfying substitute for touching.

Q. Day programs running at reduced capacity is still dangerous to the attendees health.  Safety of taking seniors shopping, etc.

A. You can speak with the program’s management about how they are monitoring the health of staff, even if staff is keeping attendees apart.  Be sure to express your family member’s co-morbidities so everyone is aware of the level of protections needed to keep them healthy.  If you have in-home caregivers, be sure personal protective equipment is available to use in your home.  There are guidelines on the CDC’s website.  It is best to have groceries, etc. delivered.  If you can’t manage to arrange for this online, reach out to family, friends, clergy to ask them to deliver necessities to your home.

Q. Bedridden person and activities.

A. Playing music, reading aloud, massage (even just hands and feet), reminiscing with photos, relating family news, engage tactile sensations like a pet or stuffed animal.  Don’t forget their spiritual practices, if that is relevant to the two of you.  Reach out to people who know you to get support with your frustrations and for more ideas.

Social Isolation: Caregiving in the time of covid – lecture notes

In late March and April 2020, Home Instead Senior Living hosted “Caregiving During Covid-19,” a Facebook Live Series every Monday and Thursday for 30 minutes. The fifth chat in the series, on April 13th, was a Question-and-Answer about social isolation.

Social isolation and loneliness is a common problem for seniors.  This period of physical distancing and social isolation due to covid-19 is giving the rest of us a glimpse into the lonely experience of many seniors.  Hopefully, that shared experience will help us:      
– become more aware of seniors around us who may be lonely, and       
– develop creative ways to prevent or relieve their loneliness.

The conversation between two gerontologists addressed:
– factors that can lead to social isolation for seniors,
– signs we may notice if someone we love is lonely or depressed, and
– proactive things we can do to help prevent or relieve loneliness for seniors.

I liked this suggestion: Ask your loved one what would make them feel more connected? 

The recording from April 13th can be found here:

homeinstead.com/covid-19/news/social-isolation

Denise Dagan from Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach listened in on the discussion and shared her notes.

Recordings from the nine discussions or chats can be found here:

homeinstead.com/covid-19/resources/livechat

Robin

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Social Isolation Q&A
April 13, 2020
Home Instead Senior Living
Notes by Denise Deagan, Stanford Parkinson’s Community Outreach


homeinstead.com/covid-19/news/social-isolation

Moderator: Lakelyn Hogan, gerontologist
Guest: Molly Carpenter, gerontologist and author of Competence to Care

Lakelyn – In this time of social distancing, staying connected is more important than ever because seniors are prone to social isolation, which can lead to loneliness and depression.  Now, we are all getting a glimpse into what seniors often experience. What are your general thoughts on this topic?

Molly – You make an excellent point in saying the covid-19 period of social distancing is a glimpse of what seniors often experience due to mobility issues or chronic conditions.  Our awareness of their daily experience is the only way we can reach out and do something to help seniors.

Isolation is an objective measure of when someone doesn’t have enough people to interact with.

Loneliness is the emotional distress of not having social interaction.  It looks different from one person to another and it very subjective.  You can have a lot of friends, but still feel lonely.

Sometimes, family will move a senior into a care facility thinking they will have so much social interaction, but that person can still feel lonely.
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Lakelyn – What other circumstances can make a senior feel lonely, besides mobility, etc.?

Molly – There are so many:

  • Your living environment – being unmarried, widowed, having no children or no children nearby
  • Social changes – currently cancelled book clubs, church groups, closed senior centers, etc.
  • Distance – rural area residence
  • Location and Transportation – suburbs without public transportation and no driver’s license
  • Mobility – pain while walking, limited handicap access, inability to afford a motorized wheelchair or scooter
  • Hearing and Vision limitations
  • Life changes – being widowed, becoming a caregiver, moving/relocation, retirement, etc.

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Lakelyn – Isolation and loneliness can impact your physical health.  Studies found loneliness can be worse than smoking (15 cigarettes/daily), alcoholism and obesity.

Molly – There are health implications.  In the last 10 years research articles talk about loneliness causing an increased risk of heart disease/stroke, dementia, depression, perceived stress, pool sleep, even death!  
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Lakelyn – There are visual cues you can look for while interacting with our loved ones to recognize symptoms of loneliness so we can do something to relieve their loneliness.

Molly – These signs look a lot like depression and loneliness can lead to depression.  If you see these signs, be sure to bring the issue up with their doctor and have them tested for depression.

  • aches and pains
  • increased tension
  • anxiety/panic attacks
  • low energy/lack of motivation
  • cognitive impairment
  • sleep issues/too many naps during the day
  • weight gain or loss
  • poor diet
  • appetite changes
  • comments about hopelessness
  • feeling down in the dumps

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Lakelyn – What can we do to prevent loneliness or isolation for our loved ones?

Molly – First, think about the word, “relationships.”  We all have to work on our relationships.  With our seniors, we may have to take the lead and reach out more often, pay closer attention, and take action.  Seniors tend not to say anything so you need to just step in.

  • Be proactive and persistent
  • Take an individualized approach
    • Consider their personality – do they need quiet time or more active 
    • What did/do they enjoy doing – consider their life experience
  • Use technology to chat, play games, etc.
  • While on the phone or video chatting.  Eat a meal together or dessert, have a happy hour, watch the sunset – be creative with what you do together, virtually.
  • Pick up the phone
  • Send handwritten notes/cards
  • Quality over quantity – even if you haven’t contacted someone in awhile, they may still appreciate the gesture
    • Especially if you share that something made you think of them, make a quick call/text/card, etc.
  • Don’t get discouraged if your initial contact seems unwelcome – keep trying.
  • Ask them what would make them feel more connected?  They may prefer a phone call to video conference, or vice versa.